Her Love Upgrade - Healthy Relationships, Toxic Relationships, Heal Heartbreak, Setting Boundaries, Self-Love

17 | Can You Fix a Narcissist?

You are a loving, caring, loyal woman who is dedicated to your relationship.BUT you know in your heart that something’s not quite right here…Your partner is hard to deal with and their needs come first… but when it’s good, oh my! it feels AMAZING.  You think “If only I could fix them, this relationship could be amazing all the time” ...so you try everything to make them happy and support them, and yet you always seem to be doing it wrong, and feeling anxious all the time.  I see you, please know you’re not alone. It IS possible to be free of this bind - and this episode sheds light on exactly how.Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -
Remy xox
*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ***1.)  Join our free community of like minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 2.)  Not sure what you’re doing wrong, but know something needs to change? Stop second-guessing how you’re sabotaging your love life and start confidently moving forward:  www.herloveupgrade.com/breakthrough3.)  Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

16 | Narcissist and Toxic Relationship Recovery Groups on Facebook - The Lowdown!

Have you come across one of the myriad of Toxic Relationship Recovery groups on Facebook?  Whether you are in a toxic relationship and looking for advice on how to deal with an abusive partner or narcissist, or if you are in the healing and recalibration phase after a breakup, it's likely that your search for answers may have led you to one.  As a relationship therapist and coach I dip into these groups every now and then to offer advice, and some of my clients have even been active members of these groups - so I’ve spent some time in these corners of the internet… and I have some insights you’ll want to hear about them when it comes to your own healing journey.It’s so important to get the right help and support when you’re in, leaving, or recovering from a toxic relationship - not to mention the support you need to do the work to overcome toxic relationship patterns altogether.  But are Facebook Groups the way to go?  Take a listen to find out!
I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -
Remy xox
 
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... ***
＞＞＞ Get Clarity On How You’re Blocking a Fulfilling Love Life - Book your Love Block Breakthrough session today!  Stop second-guessing how you’re sabotaging your love life and start confidently moving forward!  In a 90 minute Zoom call you will gain conscious awareness of your love-blocking beliefs and behaviours, so you can begin to release them.  It’s time to unlock the love life you’ve been waiting for - Book Now: www.herloveupgrade.com/breakthrough
 
 
＞＞＞ Help your soul stay high vibe & in peak state to let abundant love flow by joining the FB community: www.herloveupgrade.com/community It’s a completely free, safe space to: - Get support and encouragement on your healing / recalibration journey after a break-up- Celebrate and reflect on the layers of limiting beliefs and unconscious auto-programs that you are becoming aware of & resolving- Support with staying in alignment with your True Self and living in Self integrity - Guidance on how to harness the Nature of Reality and create your highest and best life
 
 
＞＞ Drop me a note / VM, I’d love to hear from you! Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

15 | Why You’re Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners - The Neuroscience Behind Toxic Relationship Patterns

School holidays are over - YIPPEE!!! I can actually finish a thought and have time to do other things than make 25 snack plates a day and keep two children busy 😅  It's SO good to be back, podcasting and serving clients!  Thank you for listening and keeping in touch over the past few weeks... it totally filled my cup!It sounds like the rebrand resonated with many of you - although the podcast is no longer called Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns, believe me that this is still exactly what you will be doing by listening in 💯✨
Back to today's episode...
Do you feel like you keep attracting the same toxic partners who are emotionally unavailable?
Wish you could change the way you morph into an over-giving people pleaser in relationships?
 
This episode is to show you the reason you are attracted to the same type of partners over and over again, even if the relationships don’t make you feel good and aren’t serving your highest and best vision for yourself.  I know you’re hating on yourself for it but, believe it or not, like everything that is keeping you stuck, its just a learned way of being that you taught yourself as a child to keep you safe - and over the years you’ve held onto it so tightly that it has formed a part of your belief system.  But don’t worry - just like a cocoon around a butterfly - when you were young and vulnerable you needed the safety of (what you thought was) a reliable method of fostering connection with your caregivers, BUT, now you’re ready to spread your wings, the cocoon feels like more of an uncomfortable trap.   The good news is that, just like a butterfly, you have the resources to break free and embrace the life and love that’s waiting for you. 🦋✨If you feel stuck in a cycle of relationships that suck you dry, bruise your heart and damage your self esteem, this episode could be the key to you having greater control over who you are attracted to, and who your are attracting into your life. 
 
I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -
 
Remy xox
 
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

14 | 5 Step Somatic Self-Soothing for Healing Post-Breakup Heartache

Are you suffering with physical tension and discomfort caused by the heartache of a breakup?  When our emotions manifest somatically, it can be a powerful sign that our unconscious is trying to tell us something very important. So how do we listen in?My favourite way is this easy, gentle and loving 5 step process - and I'm delighted to share it all with you in this episode!  Honour your wonderful self by giving it a little time and quiet space to engage in this powerful 5 step process.  It's a great way to release physical discomfort brought about by anxiety and stress caused by any number of things, although this episode is focussed on easing the physical discomfort caused by a breakup in particular. I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -Remy xox
 
 
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

13 | I Don’t Belong In This Club! The Best Way to Meet Potential Partners… Without Nightclubs, Bars or Online Dating Apps

Are you wondering where to begin when it comes to meeting someone new?  Does it feel like meeting someone who is worth your time and energy is almost impossible?  Maybe you’re even doubting whether you’re meant for love, or thinking that the only people left are the dregs that no one wants…While you might have spent much of your late teens and 20’s hitting bars and clubs, these days an ideal night out is more about delicious food and amazing conversation - but who meets someone at a restaurant?!Online / app dating might seem boring at best and completely soul destroying at worst… so that doesn’t feel aligned either.So then what? where?!  and who decent is single and available anyway?!?  If this is where your head keeps looping, take a sigh of relief because there’s a paradigm shift waiting for you in this episode 💗If you are ready to learn more about how you can use the powerful nature of our reality to meet someone new in a more aligned, joy-filled way, this episode is for you!  I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -Remy xox
 
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

12 | The EASIEST Way to Spot Red Flags in a New Relationship

I know you’re scared about being burned yet again… pouring time, energy and love into a relationship that ends up causing heartache and sometimes in quite a traumatic way because you’ve felt blindsided in the past.
Cutting yourself off from love might feel safer, but there’s a part of you that still truly wants a loving, kind partner to dance through life with.  That part is your True Self, and it knows better than that fearful ego of yours - which is trying to keep you safe by completely clipping your wings.
So how can you confidently embrace the desires of your True Self AND stay safe?
Well, by understanding the warning signs to look out for so you can spot those red flags, and then have the right mindset to take appropriate action... and Ep. 12 will explain the surprisingly easy way to do this. 
Afterall, what is a life without love?! 
Thankfully, you never have to find out :)
I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for - Remy xox
 
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

11 | Should I Leave My Partner? 3 Clarifying Questions to Ask Yourself Before Breaking Up

Need more clarity before you break up with your partner?  This one’s for you.Tune in to Ep.11 for 3 powerful tools that will help you to make a decision that you’re at peace with. It took me YEARS and many failed relationships (including a marriage!) to work out these gems, and I’m so excited I get to share them with you to save you the time, energy and heartbreak.Should you decide your current partner isn’t aligned with your highest and best vision of your life, here’s your permission slip to let them go with love and gratitude.Remember, letting them go and gleaning the lessons and learnings from the experience makes space for bigger and better things in your life.  If there’s anything you’d like more help with, send me a DM (@loveupgradecoach), email (remy@herloveupgrade.com) or WhatsApp message (+61452187369).  It's my greatest pleasure to support women like you to step into their highest and best love lives!  I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for- Remy xox
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

10 | Got the Lonely Christmas Blues? 4 Steps to Feel High Vibe When Single in Holiday Season

Do you wish Christmas lit you up like fairy lights, instead of reminding you of the loving partner you don’t have?  Is your beautiful smile at gatherings starting to feel a little… strained?  Maybe you find yourself sobbing at Xmas rom-coms, wondering WTF you need to do to get some real good authentic loving in your life.  Lovely lady, I am sending you hugs and so much love… and an entire stuffed-stocking episode full of joy-inducing treats for you!  Crank up your energetic dial and let’s start 2025 off  with the high-vibe  TUNE UP you deserve.  Woot woot!!!  Listen in to Ep 10 - live now on your favourite podcast app.  I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for- Remy xox  
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

9 | 4 Ways to Improve the Energy of Your Corporate Job and Workplace

If you are spending precious hours of your week at work, you NEED to make sure that your workplace isn’t negatively affecting your vibration.Why is this important?  Well, a couple of reasons:  1.) It’s our responsibility to be true to ourselves and shine the loving nature we’ve been gifted in this life so that our light can illuminate the world as much as possible, and 2.) because we get what we ARE, not what we WANT - and it is our responsibility to make sure we are living in the state we want to be in, instead of being the low vibe victims of our surroundings.  Living in dread, anxiety and resentment serves no-one, particularly not ourselves.  To manifest the life we want, we need to take inspired action that comes from feeling invigorated, loving, joyful - this is the space from where our true creativity and power flows. Want some ideas on how can you close the gap between your warm heart-centred loving nature and the ‘corporate brand’ you need to portray at work?I got you! Listen in to Ep. 9 to hear four ways you can raise the vibration of your workplace, so your own energetics aren’t negatively affected. I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -Remy xox
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

8 | What Am I Doing Wrong? How To Get Out of Your Own Way When It Comes To Attracting a Healthy Relationship

Do you keep looking for the reason you’re not attracting the right parter?  You might find your brain looping, trying to work out what it is you’re doing ‘wrong’.  Maybe other people have told you you’re ‘too picky’, or seem too this and not enough that… one gorgeous lady I work with said people told her she was too TALL!  As if!!!   The answer seems so elusive that sometimes we just assume it’s something inherent in us, like we’re just not meant to find a partner… like we’re not made to be loved or something.We forget how divine we are.What miracles for being here we are.As babies we know how loveable we are without fear or shame - we demand love, affection, nourishment and rest all day long without a doubt that it is our birthright. Babies remind us of the hope, the possibility of our own human experience - they actually remind us of everything we have inside us too, because everything we see and love about someone else is always a reflection of a part of us that holds the same qualities (otherwise we couldn’t recognise it). The problem though is as we grow up, our fearful ego mind develops and tries to make a rule book for life so that we stay alive… and the main way our brains are wired to do this is via human connection, which requires being accepted.We become more self-aware and learn that some things we do are accepted by our adult caregivers… and some are not. So, some things we do result in a response from them that make us feel loved, and some do not. We (incorrectly) make that mean that some things we do make us loveable - and some do not. You might have spotted the error here in how our child mind has interpreted things; we learned that being loved had to be earned, it wasn’t just inherent in us. In short, we separated ourselves from our inherent lovableness. SO… there’s a very good reason searching for an answer to what’s wrong with you makes your brain loop and trip like a DVD with scratches on it. There’s nothing wrong with you - it’s the wrong question!It’s time to let go of those incoherent, limiting beliefs and to start asking better questions that elevate you - listen on in to Ep. 8 to discover exactly what those are. I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -Remy xox
 
 
*** BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE JOURNEY HERE.... 
1.>>> Join the official Her Love Upgrade FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/communityIt’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:
- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence
- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships
- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love
- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease
 
You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.
2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough
 
Also >>>
Tell me what’s on your heart:Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveupgradecoach/ 
 
 
Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine