25 | Why Wasn't I Good Enough For My Ex? The Real Reason Your Breakup Feels So Painful

Ever wondered why your breakup hurt so much — even when they weren’t right for you? In this episode, we explore the real reason behind your pain: the unmet childhood needs that confuse safety with love. You were never "not enough" — and this shift will set you free.

What if the pain of your breakup isn’t really about them at all?
What if it’s about a much deeper, older wound — one you’ve been carrying since childhood?

In this potent episode, I’ll guide you through the hidden reason your breakup hit so hard — even if the relationship was toxic or unfulfilling. Spoiler: It’s not because you weren’t good enough.

It’s because, like so many of us, you were unknowingly chasing the feeling of love — which your nervous system confused with emotional safety and connection.

We’ll explore:

💔 Why you may still be subconsciously seeking external safety that feels like love
🧠 How your childhood survival patterns became adult relationship struggles
🚩 Why you’re attracted to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners
🔥 The shift that sets you free: dating from joy and wholeness, not need
💡 How to stop confusing temporary relief with lasting love — and reclaim your worth

This is the missing piece you’ve been searching for. 

The wake-up call your subconscious has been hinting you need. 

You were always lovable, even when your early life didn’t reflect that truth.

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Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

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Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine